Selfridges was buzzing with energy as NAYDAYA unveiled two intimate wellness essentials designed to support women through perimenopause and beyond: Victory Cleanse and Victory Glide.

The response has been incredible - Victory Cleanse sold out in its first week at Selfridges, and Victory Glide has already surpassed 1,000 bottles sold. It’s clear that women are actively seeking products that genuinely transform their intimate wellbeing.

During a walk-through of the beautifully curated pop-up NAYDAYA’s Tanya spoke with psychosexual therapist and author Kate Moyle for an open, grounded, and empowering conversation about libido, painful sex, pleasure, and why nobody should feel “broken.”

Here’s the full interview.

“Just because painful sex is common doesn’t mean it’s normal.” — Kate Moyle

Tanya (NAYDAYA): When a woman enters perimenopause, is it inevitable that her sex drive will drop?

Kate Moyle: No — and calling it “inevitable” makes women feel like there are no options. There are 34 common symptoms associated with perimenopause and menopause, and reduced interest in sex is only one of them. Factors like sleep disruption, hot flushes, and vaginal dryness also play a huge role in how someone feels about sex. It’s far more nuanced than “your libido disappears.”

“My libido vanished — am I broken?”

Tanya: Many women tell us they feel “broken” when their libido changes. What do you say to them?

Kate: “Broken” is a word I hear all the time — but I want every woman to know: you are not broken. This stage of life simply requires new knowledge, new tools, and new approaches. We adapt in every other area of life; our sexual wellbeing deserves that same flexibility and compassion.

Painful sex described as “razor blades” — can that improve?

Tanya: Some women describe sex during perimenopause as “razor blades.” Is that typical, and can it get better?

Kate: Yes, it can absolutely get better. Pain during sex may be common, but it’s not normal. The “razor blade” sensation is often linked to vaginal dryness. Using something to reduce friction can help in the short term, but if the pain continues, seeing a medical professional is important.

Multiple orgasms after menopause? Yes.

Tanya: Can people still have multiple orgasms post-menopause?

Kate: Absolutely. Things evolve through the lifespan, but nothing prevents pleasure — or multiple orgasms — after menopause.

When desire exists but arousal or lubrication doesn’t

Tanya: What about women who feel desire mentally but experience low arousal or lubrication?

Kate: Desire is your motivation for sex, while arousal is your body and brain preparing for it. One big truth is: people don’t desire sex they aren’t enjoying. So nurturing enjoyment and reflecting on what motivates you can be transformative.

How to talk to a partner without blame

Tanya: How can women talk to their partners about low desire or painful sex without the conversation turning into a blame game?

Kate: Blame is where couples get stuck. Instead of “you want more, I want less,” try approaching it as: “This is something we can navigate together.” Choose a neutral time, use warm language, and focus on shared solutions — not fault.

If both partners lose libido — is the relationship doomed?

Tanya: If both partners experience low libido, is it game over?

Kate: Not at all. These conversations can feel difficult, but mutual openness is what matters. When partners shift from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the challenge,” everything becomes more workable.

Dating again in midlife: confidence, communication & self-knowledge

Tanya: Any advice for women dating again during perimenopause?

Kate: Know your body and your needs — and don’t be embarrassed to express them. If intimate products like lubricants or oils help you, that’s completely valid. Confidence comes from self-understanding, not from pretending everything is the same as it was at 25. And yes — I genuinely love the NAYDAYA collection. Victory Oil paired with Victory Glide makes practical, supportive sense for intimacy.

Lightning Round with Kate Moyle

Tanya: Your go-to for vaginal dryness?

Kate: Victory Oil — a total hero product.

Tanya: One menopause myth you wish would disappear?

Kate: That menopause is “the end.” It isn’t. It’s a transition, and like all transitions, with the right support, it can be navigated with confidence.

Tanya: The best advice you’d give your younger self about sex?

Kate: That sex isn’t one thing. It’s multifaceted — and sexual wellness is just as much about how you think and feel as what you do.