Intimate dryness, and changes to our bodies and libidos makes many women pull away from intimacy and from themselves. But it doesn't have to stay that way.
Let’s be honest: we've been taught to keep quiet about sex after a certain age, like menopause and sex don’t belong in the same sentence. Like our bodies become invisible and our pleasure unimportant. But here’s the truth: our sex life doesn’t end when your periods do. It just changes, and change can be good.
Sex during menopause: It isn’t over. It’s evolving.
Let’s be real, sex can feel different during menopause. For some women, desire dips. For others, vaginal dryness or disrupted sleep get in the way of intimacy. Hormones are shifting and your body’s navigating a whole new vibe, but this isn’t the end of your sex life. With the right support, pleasure can feel good again.
Libido isn’t just physical. It’s emotional, relational and cultural, too. Maybe sex has started to feel uncomfortable. Maybe you are running on empty. Maybe you aren’t feeling your best in your skin right now. All of that’s completely normal. And there’s so much you can do to feel more like you.
Why it feels impossible to talk about
So many women feel like they’re the only ones going through this. They stay quiet to protect their partners to avoid embarrassment, because no one ever told them this was normal.
But silence doesn’t fix anything. Talking breaks shame. Connection starts with honesty. And change starts with asking for what you need.
How to increase sex drive during menopause
Let’s make it simple.
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Hydration. Drink water. Eat nourishing food. Use products like Victory Oil daily to help support hormonal skin from the outside in.
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Warm-up time. Your body needs longer. That isn’t a flaw. That’s biology.
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Lubrication. Use our Victory Glide, every time. It’s made to help you feel good, not sticky or irritated. There are no parabens, no rubbish, just glide.
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Ask for help. HRT or testosterone can boost desire, so can a conversation with your GP.
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Move your body. Exercise boosts blood flow and lifts your mood, it can even improve orgasm.
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Get some sleep. Rest is a big part of your libido. Fix sleep and you might just fix your drive.
Reframe how you think about intimacy
Sex after menopause may not look like it used to, but it can still feel good. In fact, it can feel even better. With age comes confidence. You care less about what you look like and more about how you feel.
The benefits of sex after menopause go beyond the bedroom. More intimacy means less stress, better sleep, a stronger bond, and more joy. That’s what matters.
Wondering if women enjoy sex after menopause? Yes, with the right support, the right lube and the right mindset, sex can become a place of connection and confidence again.
You aren’t broken. You're changing.
Dryness isn’t the end of your story. It’s the start of a new chapter, and you get to decide how it unfolds.
Comfort is absolutely possible. It can be found in your body, in your skin and in your sex life.
Further help:
Sexual wellbeing, intimacy and menopause
High Libido in Women During Perimenopause
How do perimenopause and menopause affect my sex drive?
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